If you are the always busy in the work place type, for sure you will be having some trouble meeting up with your family needs and demands especially some time out with your kids.
Sometimes we hear questions like: “How do I cope with my work, my children, my partner… my busy life?”
The short answer to this complex question is to begin by nurturing yourself. While managing a career and family leaves some parents feeling guilty and frazzled, others seem to be able to effortlessly balance parenthood with full-time work. Parents who are able to raise well-adjusted children while also maintaining a career have to make sacrifices in order to keep the peace.
Here are some tips for a work-family balance:
• Come in relaxed. If you need to, take 10 minutes to shower and change before you sit down with the children. Children pick up on moods and will sense your unhappiness with the family routine if you run in, complaining about hold ups at work, or missed meals and late bedtimes. But if you seem relaxed about the daily routine, they’ll relax and take it in their stride, too - even if they see you for just 30 minutes every evening or at the weekend if you work away or live separately.
• Come in and eat with your children. If it’s late and they’ve already eaten, get into the habit of sitting down and enjoying a light snack and a chat with them before they go up to bed. The chat doesn’t have to be about anything heavy. Telling them about your day, an interesting job you’ve done or a person you’ve met may encourage them to tell you about theirs but it’s not guaranteed. Every evening can be different, but that sit down over dinner can become one of the most enjoyable parts of your family’s routine.
• Do something together. It doesn’t have to be anything special or take very long. The fact is your children will just enjoy being around you for a short time each day - while you help take the plates to the kitchen, take the baby or kids to their rooms, or help them with their homework no matter how little time you will have to offer.
• Enjoy the bedtime routine. Bathtime, storytime, or both if there’s time. If you have relaxed and eaten, it will help low energy levels, and may help you keep your eyes open during that bedtime story! You know your children don’t need, or want, full on entertainment, just having your quiet company while they play in the bath or a short story at bedtime will be enough for them. Then you can watch your children settle down happy to know you’re there.
• Make one night your special night. Movie night, Lego night or computer game night. Whatever they fancy. Few dads can join in with their children’s post-school fun and games every evening, but your children will love to know that there’s one night when everything stops, just for them.