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Marriage I know should be a thing of will, in that case one should not act as though they were forced into it. Love your partner as though you are loving yourself.
Though this isn’t a comprehensive list, here are seven of the most common dysfunctional marriage types:
1. The Scorekeepers
These are the marriages where one or both spouses is always “keeping score” of the other spouse’s behavior and then using that information to manipulate or control aspects of the marriage. Forgiveness is never truly sought or truly given. Scorekeepers always have their guards up, because they see marriage as a contest to be won against their spouse instead of something to be won in partnership with their spouse.
2. The Fantasizers
These couples have nearly given up on pursuing passionate intimacy with each other, so they often escape into fantasy through romance novels or P0*n. The deeper they go into the fantasy, the more desensitized they become to real love and the more unsatisfied they become with their spouse, their s*x life and their marriage.
3. The Outsourcers
These dysfunctional couples take the most sacred aspects of marriage (emotional support, friendship, acceptance, companionship and sometimes even s*x) and “outsource” those roles to other people or pursuits. They may also escape into their career or hobbies if they find fulfillment in those arenas. They give the best of themselves to other people or pursuits at the expense of their marriage.

4. The Blamers
These are the marriages where one or both spouses consistently blame the other for all the struggles in the marriage. These couples tend to have regular arguments (often heated) with no real resolutions. Even when they are not arguing, their communication still contains a great deal of sarcasm and nagging. They live in perpetual frustration with each other.
5. The Separatists
These are the couples who never seem to fully grasp the partnership required for a healthy marriage. They live as two separate individuals with separate hopes, separate dreams, separate money (often separate bank accounts), separate hobbies, separate friends, and eventually, separate lives altogether.
6. The Deceivers
These couples have no trust in each other, and their lack of trust is perpetuated by keeping secrets and hiding details (or hiding money, conversations, etc) from each other. Without trust and transparency in the marriage, the couples lives in a state of artificial harmony and they never experience true intimacy, because secrecy is an enemy of intimacy.
7. The Quitters
These couples throw around the word “divorce” in nearly every disagreement until they finally follow through and give up on the marriage. They see struggles in marriage as an excuse to quit instead of an opportunity to work together and grow stronger with their spouse. They very often remarry someone else and then repeat the same cycles of dysfunction in the new relationship.

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