Make up your mind that no matter what comes your way, no matter how difficult, no matter how unfair, you will do more than simply survive. You will thrive in spite of it.
Do not seek to be free of the problems. Work to be stronger than the problems.
A life with no problems would be a life with no opportunities for growth or achievement. That’s not what you want, and it is certainly not realistic.
In the real world there are difficult problems, and there will always be. Yet there are also countless possibilities for progress and true fulfillment.
D on’t waste your time fantasizing about a life free of problems. Instead, use your imagination and your efforts to transform those problems into positive value.
Embrace each situation as it is, along with all the problems. Accept that the problems exist, and you can then begin to successfully work through them.
Life will always be challenging in one way or another. So rise to the challenges and use your unique set of abilities to make life great.
“The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition”
Adversity is a reasonably simple concept. It’s an event, situation or thing that challenges you and makes life more difficult. It can vary in length, intensity or unpleasantness.
For some, it’s losing a parent. For others, it’s struggling with maths. Whatever it is, let’s start off by refusing to compare our situations to other people’s. It’s a pointless exercise.
I want to show you that you are stronger than your pain. You are greater than it. For two main reasons.
1. You are more than your pain.
2. You can become better because of your pain.
My goal is to show you that this needn’t be a silly platitude. It is not about reading a quote about overcoming adversity, feel invigorated for a fleeting moment, then continue to feel defeated by the misfortune life has offered.
I want you to believe this because it’s true.
Let’s admit that painful challenges life throws at us can really really suck. Ignoring that fact would be stupid. Yes, some things “aren’t that bad” when you put them into the perspective of other people or place them into the grandness of the universe. However, this misses an important point.
Some events are challenges and important ones because you’re experiencing them. Adversity might be the villain in your personal story. Does the existence of millions of other stories invalidate your own? Of course not. Continually dismissing problems as insignificant just prevents us from approaching them head on.
Adversity can not only feel like they’ve consumed you completely but actually consume you. They can be the only things on your mind for hours, days and weeks on end. Anyone who has faced a significant challenge knows exactly what this is like. Everything you do in your life comes back to this pain.
The pain just seems to last forever.
However, the first step to understanding why you are stronger than your pain is to understand that you are more than your pain.
What does this mean?
Pain is not the only part of our lives. Our pain plays a marvelous trick on all of us – it convinces us that the good in our day does not matter. Or worse yet, that good doesn’t exist at all.
This forces us to create unhelpful thinking habits which skew our ideas of reality negatively and create a vicious cycle of catastrophic thinking. An example of this is disqualifying the positive and over-generalising.