Have you been wondering lately how self assured and really confident some people can be in comparison with yourself particularly when it comes to dealing with very serious situations ahead of them, as well as people’s opinion about them.
You probably have been thinking it’s impossible for you to get self confident but really, is not. All it takes is just a conscious effort to journey towards self improvement and you would be amazed at how much confidence you have built overtime.
Nevertheless, while you’re making the effort to build yourself into that very confident individual, here are the 12 don’ts of a very confident people you should note.
THEY NEVER COMPARE THEMSELVES WITH OTHERS
Confident people do not play the comparison game; they do not see themselves competing with anyone. In fact they view any form of comparison an underestimation of their personality.
They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.
Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort, because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.
THEY DO NOT BROOD OVER THEIR MISTAKES
Confident people do not worry about their mistakes, they are not afraid of being wrong. Rather than brood over past mistakes they simply accept it and move on with their life. they consider their mistakes a learning process, after all one can learn from his or her mistakes.
THEY CARE LESS ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF THEM
Confident people never really care about the opinion of others; they do not make any effort to impress people with any of their abilities or possessions. They understand what it is to be admired for who they are and they do not brood over those who do not like them.
THEY DO NOT LIVE IN FEAR
Confident people do not live in fear, in fact they always want to deal with their fears by consciously engaging in those things that brings about fear in them, this they consider a way of reaching out for success.
They don’t put things off until next week.
Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the “right time” or the “right circumstances”, because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here, now, today – because that’s where progress happens.
THEY DON’T LIVE IN PRETENSE
Confident people never pretend to be who they are not, they accept and are comfortable being who they are. They know they can always stand tall irrespective of who they are hence, they remain self assured about their personality.
THEY DON’T LET THE SITUATION OF THINGS GET IN THEIR WAY
They never allow the situation of things around them to cloud their judgment or change their view about themselves; they simply brush aside obstacles and focus on improving themselves.
THEY DON’T MAKE UP EXCUSES
Confident people take responsibilities for their actions, they understand what it takes to be in control of their lives, they focus on self improvement until they get things rightly done, they do not blame others for their mistakes.
They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.
Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world, they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are, and they don’t concern themselves with the rest.
They don’t judge people.
Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs, participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.
They don’t let lack of resources stop them.
Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have, no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but rather focus on finding a solution.
Be confident, live it, feel it and let others learn from your life that it pays to be confidence.